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Embodying Confidence – Even when you don’t feel it

Confidence often takes centre stage as a key ingredient for success at work. It is not just about what you say or do, but also about how you carry yourself.

It’s about embodying the qualities of a confident person in your posture, tone of voice, and body language. 

But what happens when you find yourself grappling with self-doubt, when the situation demands a confident “You”? 

Well, read on as we offer 6 key insights and strategies to project confidence and help you navigate through various scenarios. 

Embodying Confidence - Even when you don’t feel it

Understanding the Dilemma:

Everyone will encounter moments when their self-assurance wavers. Whether it is during a job interview, delivering a presentation, briefing your team, or just meeting new people. The pressure to exude confidence can be overwhelming. The first step in mastering the art of embodying confidence is acknowledging that it’s a common challenge, and you’re not alone in facing it.

The Power of Body Language:

Confidence is often perceived through non-verbal cues. By mastering positive body language, you can project an air of confidence even when your inner self might be feeling shaky. Make sure you have good eye contact, stand up straight, and use your gestures purposefully. These actions not only influence how others perceive you; but can also trick your mind into feeling more confident, and there is scientific proof that this indeed works!

Embodying Confidence - Even when you don’t feel it

Embrace the Role:

Imagine confidence as a role you play in certain situations. Channel your inner actor and step into the character of a confident, capable individual. By embracing the role, you create a psychological distance between your authentic self and the persona you project, making it easier to navigate through challenging situations that you may encounter.

Prepare, Prepare, Prepare:

One of the most effective ways to fake confidence is to be thoroughly prepared. Whether it’s a presentation, meeting, or social event, the more you know about the subject matter, the more confident you’ll appear. Preparation not only enhances your knowledge but also provides a safety net when you need to rely on your expertise.

Embodying Confidence - Even when you don’t feel it

Positive Self-Talk:

The dialogue in your head plays a crucial role in shaping your confidence levels. Transform negative self-talk into positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your past successes and focus on your strengths. Redirecting your internal narrative can significantly impact how you feel and, subsequently, how you present yourself to the world.

Learn from the Best:

Observing confident individuals can offer valuable lessons. Identify role models, whether they’re colleagues, public figures, or fictional characters, and analyse their behaviour. Take note of their body language, the way that they speak, and how they handle challenging situations. Incorporate these lessons into your own approach to embodying confidence.


Embodying confidence is not about fooling others (or yourself!); it’s a skill that can be honed to navigate through moments of uncertainty. By mastering the art of projecting self-assurance, you can overcome obstacles, make lasting impressions, and, over time, build genuine confidence from within.

Remember, it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about becoming the best version of yourself, even when the road ahead seems daunting. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt 

Further Reading

Ten Assertiveness Skills To Improve Confidence

Building Confidence And Assertiveness at Work

By Jacob Ahmadzai

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