{"id":4281,"date":"2020-08-06T08:30:41","date_gmt":"2020-08-06T08:30:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.stl-training.co.uk\/b\/?p=4281"},"modified":"2025-05-03T04:13:27","modified_gmt":"2025-05-03T04:13:27","slug":"to-coach-or-not-to-coach-that-is-the-question","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.stl-training.co.uk\/b\/to-coach-or-not-to-coach-that-is-the-question\/","title":{"rendered":"To coach, or not to coach? That is the question!"},"content":{"rendered":"<h4><strong>In fact, many questions!<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>One key role of a leader is to help those around you to be the best they can be. To empower people, they need the <strong>skill<\/strong> and the <strong>will<\/strong> to do their jobs. What happens when someone has the will, but the skill level is lacking? They need some learning and development! There are different ways of helping people \u2013 let\u2019s focus on <strong><a href=\"\/syl\/321\/intermediate-manager-skills-part-one.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">coaching<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>If we\u2019re going to coach people effectively, we need to understand how it really works &#8211; many people don\u2019t! They\u2019re probably training, teaching, explaining, advising, guiding or mentoring (you may want to check out our <a href=\"\/ps-mentoring.php\">mentoring training courses London<\/a>), but these are not the same as coaching.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>So what is it then?<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>If you really are coaching someone, all you do is ask <strong>questions<\/strong>. In a training or mentoring relationship, the assumption is that at least one party has knowledge or experience to share with the other \u2013 in these cases, it\u2019s the trainer or mentor. However, when we coach someone, the assumption is that <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/forbescoachescouncil\/2019\/01\/04\/coaching-on-higher-ground\/#53fd4ac2176e\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" class=\"broken_link\">the coachee has the knowledge or ideas<\/a><\/strong> buried somewhere within them \u2013 the coach\u2019s role is to ask thought-provoking questions to bring this information to the surface.<\/p>\n<p>The coach helps the coachee to realise that they know more than they think. In a coaching conversation, who should be doing most of the talking? The coachee! If not, or the coach is both asking and answering the questions, then coaching has ended and a different method is being used (training or mentoring?)!<\/p>\n<h4><strong>The GROW coaching model<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/1072824\/pexels-photo-1072824.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;h=750&amp;w=1260\" alt=\"Person Holding A Green Plant\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A popular coaching model for you to try is called the GROW model &#8211; it\u2019s all question based:<\/p>\n<h5><strong>Goals<\/strong><\/h5>\n<ul>\n<li>What do you want to achieve?<\/li>\n<li>What is important to you right now?<\/li>\n<li>What areas do you want to work on?<\/li>\n<li>What do you want to achieve as a result of this meeting?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h5><strong>Reality<\/strong><\/h5>\n<ul>\n<li>Where are you now in relation to your goal?<\/li>\n<li>On a scale of 1 to 10, where are you?<\/li>\n<li>What skills\/knowledge\/attributes do you have?<\/li>\n<li>Describe your current level of knowledge regarding this topic?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h5><strong>Options<\/strong><\/h5>\n<ul>\n<li>What are your options?<\/li>\n<li>I\u2019d like you to come up with 5 options.<\/li>\n<li>How have you tackled a similar situation before?<\/li>\n<li>What might you do differently next time?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h5><strong>Will\/Way forward<\/strong><\/h5>\n<ul>\n<li>Choose your best options.<\/li>\n<li>What actions will you take?<\/li>\n<li>What will be the first step towards achieving your goal?<\/li>\n<li>When are you going to start?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>This coaching model is very flexible \u2013 at each stage, ask sufficient questions and when you feel you have learnt enough, move on.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><strong>A final thought<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>The assumption when <a href=\"\/syl\/325\/coaching-results.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">coaching<\/a> is that the coachee has ideas and knowledge which the right questions should bring out. But what if the assumption is wrong, and after a few questions the only answers have been \u2018dunno, dunno that either, please just tell me!\u2019<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps coaching isn\u2019t the right approach here and it\u2019s time for some training or mentoring? If the individual leaves knowing more than when they arrived, then you\u2019ve helped them to learn and develop. Who cares how you got there?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In fact, many questions! One key role of a leader is to help those around you to be the best they can be. To empower people, they need the skill and the will to do their jobs. What happens when someone has the will, but the skill level is lacking? 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